Mental health and the issues that can come with it can be ostracizing and sometimes people can be afraid to talk about what ails them. Fear of being judged can cause a lot of people to withhold information. This information can be key in helping to really figure out what might be afflicting you and it could be the first step towards finding out why you are the way you are. There are people who literally spend their lives listening to people just like you so that the climate of mental health can improve. In order for this to happen, people must not be afraid to speak on the happenings of their mind and how they feel about themselves and the world at large.
Some people get very anxious in social situations. Some people have frustration tolerance issues. Some people get too energetic when it comes to situations not necessitating such outbursts. Mental health and the support that comes with it encompasses so many different different illnesses and afflictions. Too many people feel like they will be labeled as crazy or even insane if they speak to a therapist, for example. Society as a whole seems to hate any title related to negative mental health, and I feel that is the wrong approach to the problem. We need to be as transparent as possible to those that care to know and learn about us. Therapists are here to listen and help guide us to a better version of ourselves. Counseling, support groups, even close friend groups can help immensely with curbing the stigma of mental health that can stick to you. You might think that nobody wants to hear you complain or that nobody cares about what you are going through, but someone somewhere out there does. If you are truly surrounded by those that broadcast apathy towards your plight, GET AWAY from them. You need to be able to surround yourself with people that care about the words you speak. You need people that care about your mental landscape.
I said before that I would happily be a martyr for mental health and I refuse to be ashamed to talk about what I learned about myself. I am one of those people with frustration tolerance issues, namely something called IED (Intermittent Explosive Disorder). Intermittent explosive disorder involves repeated, sudden episodes of impulsive, aggressive, violent behavior or angry verbal outbursts in which you react grossly out of proportion to the situation. Basically, the things that can mildly frustrate others can have me going from 0-100 in terms of my anger and emotional response to the situation. I have at times thrown objects, punched walls, exploded in indecent verbal tirades, and in general just been a scary person to be around in these situations. The remorse I have for my past actions is immeasurable and I can’t begin to ask for forgiveness from those I have hurt or frightened due to my lack of awareness of my problems. I went for years just thinking I had “anger issues” and that I needed anger management. I had anxiety as the driving force of all my negative emotions tied to my inherent affinity for anger. Low frustration tolerance also factored into the intermittent part of the of disorder, as my triggers for frustration were way too sensitive.
I can admit that I avoided therapy for years. I thought I could handle my issues on my own and that therapy was for truly crazy people. I can say wholeheartedly that the way I was acting was truly crazy in itself. It took way too long for me to start seeing a therapist and for me to really give attention to my own mental health. As they always say, there is no time like the present and it’s never too late to start the journey towards positive mental health. We are not our diagnosis. We are not mental illness. We are people living in this sometimes fucked up world and there are a lot of people and energy at play. Not everyone is the same and not everyone is wired the same, thus is is critically important that we gain as much knowledge and understanding of ourselves. I feel this will greatly benefit the world at large and can go a long way towards making the world a better place.
Don’t EVER let anyone think they can judge you on whatever issues you may have. No one on this earth has any power to be judge and jury on who you are as an individual. Whether you get labeled as having BPD, NPD, etc, you are still human. You can still be loved and live a purposeful life. Having a better understanding of yourself can make that life even happier and healthier for everyone.